Here’s a little something I just reluctantly posted on MySpace using my mostly-dormant account, that applies to areas of the ‘net that are not MySpace as well in some ways, so’s I’m reposting it here. I’m not in love with the fact that I wrote it, because I think it makes me feel and sound a little like a whiny baby to some degree, and because I really, really don’t like contributing to the cesspool that is MySpace anymore than I already have, but I think it’s relevant to more than just my little world and theirs.
People do tend to lose track of each other out here unless we’re right in front of each other and make it RIDICULOUSLY easy for others to keep in touch with us, like “spoon-fed” kind of easy, and it’s a shame. I’m guilty of it too, but I try my best to at least keep tabs on where everyone is and what they’re doing, even if I’m quiet at times, and I want the people I connect with to understand that they matter, even if I don’t always want to be where they choose to.
I’ve also been trying to be better about not giving too much of myself to entities like LiveJournal and MySpace that have proven themselves to be wholly unethical and mostly unremorseful about it (Facebook’s blunders like Beacon and the new layout, they at least accept some accountability for, and they make good where they can…), even though doing so comes dangerously close to that whole “pay wall” thing that sites like Techdirt rightfully warn against, so I’m glad that I’ve addressed both that (which will hopefully sway some more folks to my way of thinking on said sites), as well as the fact that I miss the people who still dwell in those places.
(Some folks may mention that I’m still on Second Life, given the fact that Linden Lab is such an ethical trainwreck, but I’ve limited my financial support of their endeavors as much as possible and am not actively creating new content there at the moment. If a more ethically and structurally sound alternative presents itself, I’ll definitely be looking into it. So that’s that.)
Anyway, here’s what I wrote:
“As some of you know, I stopped actively using MySpace to promote, well, anything about four and a half months ago, because the people who own, operate and maintain the site are petty, vindictive snakes who selectively enforce their Terms Of Service to suit their various personal agendas. Just about the only reason I haven’t deleted this profile, much as I love the people I’ve met here, is because I want to keep in touch with George Tabb, who, because of his health and life issues, doesn’t really have the time and energy to maintain more than what he has on MySpace. He’s excused for that, and I don’t ever want him to feel bad for doing what he has to, so if you’re reading this, George, don’t sweat it!
Now, as for the rest of you, at least the ones who haven’t kept in touch elsewhere? I don’t mean to berate y’all or be hostile (no one wants that…it’s kind of a drag…), and I’m not entirely surprised, because it’s easy to lose track of people when they’re not in your face on the ‘net these days (it’s that whole “out of sight, out of mind” thing; the same thing’s happened over on LiveJournal too, where I’ve started phasing out my active use because the ethics of their ownership are also kind of lacking, and my contingent from there has been a little quiet), but I have to say that I’m kind of disappointed that more of you haven’t put an effort into following me to my other destinations.
I am a pretty forgiving person, though, so I’m totally willing to turn the other cheek here, if you’re willing to put in the effort to keep in touch. I’d really love for those of you who I haven’t heard from in a while to reconnect. Help me stay on top of what’s going on in your life, and keep you in the loop about what’s up in mine. I’ll make it really easy for you to do.
I can be emailed at suck at mybigblackcock dot com. My Facebook page is here, and I’ve added a ton of music to it, for those of you who haven’t heard “the catalog” in a while. Or, if you’re so inclined and here more for the friendship than the music, you can find my personal Facebook account here if you’d like to add that (or search for “Scott Crawford”, I’m easy to find). And, of course, my web site is mybigblackcock dot com.
Oh, and you’re curious, I’m writing the address to my web site (and my email address) like that, because MySpace have seen it fit to accuse me of spamming and phishing and have refused to remove my URL from their spam and phishing folder. Not only are their accusations totally untrue (my 12 year presence on the ‘net is very well-documented), but ironically, pop-up ads and spyware are how your best friend Tom got started in “show business”. Do some homework on this place and the people who run it sometime soon, the founders are kinda despicable people (which isn’t even getting into what most of us think of their parent company). I swear, if it weren’t for my friend George (who should be your friend too, if he isn’t yet), I’d be so out of here.
Anyway, thanks for the time you spent reading this, thanks for giving enough of a damn to connect with me in the first place, and thanks in advance to any of you who do choose to migrate with me to my site, Facebook, or “wherever God takes me”, to quote the almighty NPH.
-S”